Unplanned Journey

I’ve decided (with Andy’s blessing) to open my blog up to another part of our lives.  Some of you know about this, and some do not.  I didn’t want to continue with my happy blog showcasing my happy life and happy experiences, when truthfully I’m not happy a lot of the time.  We have been dealt the card of infertility.

Infertility is not often talked about, so you don’t always know when friends or family are going through it.  I’ve read that 1 in 10 couples will have trouble having a baby.  That is not a great statistic!  If I can share my story and help just one person feel less alone, it will be worth it.

I think the reason infertility is not talked about is because it is really difficult to talk about.  I’ve had to tell some people in person and I really dread the look on their face when they realize I’m able to tell them something very serious.  No one knows what to say.  No one can truly understand unless they’ve walked in our shoes.

After 17 months of no luck, we will soon be undergoing much more extensive treatment – IVF.  This adds a lot more stress to our lives.  Medications, injections on a to-the-minute schedule, daily trips to the hospital for bloodwork and ultrasounds, multiple procedures, missed days of work for both of us, physical limitations, waiting, the emotional rollercoaster, and the worst – wondering if it is going to work.

I plan to write more about how infertility affects us and how we cope.  What you should or shouldn’t say to someone going through this.  And anything else I think of along the way!

P.S.  I’m choosing to share our story with you, blog reader, but not necessarily everyone we come into contact with each day.  If you know me in real life, please respect our wishes and do not treat us as gossip!  This is a very difficult process and I would like to continue blogging about it, but not if it causes us additional pain and anxiety.

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  1. Sonya says:

    Candice, I was actually just thinking about you while on the board and wondering how things were going.

    Wishing you and Andy lots of luck, strength, and happiness!

    Writing will be a great way to relieve some tension and allow your emotions to flow. I’m sure it has been tough to deal with alone. I’ll be thinking about you and sending lots of powerful baby vibes your way!

  2. Lisa A. says:

    I so wish you did not have to go through this ;( You will always have my support and a listening ear when you need it!

  3. Katie says:

    Hi Candice. Thanks for sharing your site with me. I am sorry to hear that you and Andy have to go through this. You have my thoughts and prayers and I wish you much strength through this all.

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Hi! We're Candice & Andy, writing about our kids Tristan & Delaney and our life in Western Pennsylvania.